Perfect Submission… The term submissive tends to cause some women to clench fists. What does the bible mean when it says wives submit to your husbands? (Ephesians 5:22-23 NIV) The definition of submission in our dictionary is: the action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person. What does it really mean to be a biblical wife? Could they be the strongest women of all being in complete self-control? Who is really in control and who is the wife obeying? The key is that the woman who becomes obedient and submissive is obeying God above all her own desires. God has commanded her to live this way in her marriage. We will also discuss some of the benefits of becoming a self-controlled lady. Women often feel as if they have the weight of the world on their shoulders. What if that was not God’s design? What if all she had to control was her own behavior and responses? The submissive woman has complete self-control and is a master of self-discipline. It is not our nature to be this way and for that reason young women are supposed to be taught by the older women how to love their husbands (Titus 2:4 ESV). It would take a strong person to hold their temper when they disagree with their spouse’s actions. It would take an even stronger woman to remain calm, while voicing their opinion in a respectful manner, when ultimately the spouse would have the final say. It appears that a wife’s divine calling is to respect all of her husband’s decisions regardless of her own opinion because that is the will of God.
It is a hard pill to swallow, maybe that is why I have become so picky with whom I choose to date. Maybe we might be a little more careful who we choose to marry if we knew that guy who we say yes to could make staying in God’s will easy or the most trying years of life. The husband might as well be the high priest of our home. The bible talks about the wife of Abraham several times. Her name was Sarah. Sarah was so respectful of her husband she even called him master. Her beauty was of a gentle and quiet spirit. She obeyed her husband even when he was morally wrong because she trusted in God for everything. Abraham made her do horrible things like lie, marry other men, and pretend to be his sister! The bible still refers to her in a blameless way because her husband was the cause for her sin. This could be very scary when a believer is married to a non-Christian. Knowing that our man doesn’t line up to the word doesn’t mean that we wives don’t have to still do what God calls us to do. Lucky for us God gives us a way out through Paul in 1st Corinthians chapter 7 he says (and I’m summarizing), Hey if you get married it will be a lot of trouble but it will cause you to grow. If you can be single and not sin by all means be single, but if you have a lot of sexual desire you have no choice but to find a mate. Once you find this person hang in there God wants you to stay together.
Today remember that God cares more about your character than anything else. That is hard to hear because we want to be happy. If you’re a parent then think on this: is it better for your children to be happy all the time or when they’re grown to have good character? God wants the best for his children because he is a fantastic parent. More than he wants us to be happy, he desires for us to be of good character. Think about how you can grow using the relationships around you. How can you serve God through submission in your life, not just with a spouse but in any area? The world emphasizes the importance of how we “feel”, but God emphasized the importance of how you “act”. Feelings are a you-thing and actions are an everybody-else thing. Being angry and not sinning, doing things although you’re afraid, obeying when it feels wrong has the ability to make you the star in your own life. Jeremiah 17:9 says the heart is deceitful, take your concerns to God and submit to his perfect will for your life. Pastor Jon Walton says, “commit without submit means quit”. That can be applied to many things.
Remember this song when you struggle in your relationships: Perfect submission, Jesus is mine. O what a foretaste of Glory divine. Heir of salvation purchase of God, Born of His spirit washed in His blood. This is my story this is my song. Praising my savior all the day long!